Though this alone would not have been enough reason to make Elizabeth re-consider Mr. Darcy’s proposal. It was the revelation of his true character that made her earnestly fall in love with him. Thus when she is asked for her hand in marriage for a second time, she answers favourably. Love is after all the deciding criteria in choosing her own husband. This stands out as a contrast to the marriage between Mr. Collins and Ms. Lucas, which was prompted by the allure of security, and that of Mr. Wikham and Lydia (Elizabeth’s youngest sister) where physical attraction seems to have been the biggest motivator.
Her candidate for Mr. Bingley's hand is her eldest daughter, Jane; it is orderly to marry the girls off in sequence, avoiding the impression that an older one has been passed over. There is a dance, to which Bingley brings his friend Darcy. Jane and Bingley immediately fall in love, to get them out of the way of Darcy and Elizabeth, who is the second Bennet daughter. These two immediately dislike each other. Darcy is overheard telling his friend Bingley that Elizabeth is "tolerable, but not handsome enough to tempt The person who overhears him is Elizabeth, who decides she will "loathe him for all eternity." She is advised within the family circle to count her blessings: "If he liked you, you'd have to talk to him."
Tabitha Mee 4217 522 4 ENN203J – Assignment 1, p3 of 4A severe change in Elizabeth’s attitude toward Mr. Darcy steadily takes place over time. When Jane asks her when this change began, she replies in saying that, It has been coming on so gradually that I hardly know when it began; but I believe I must date it from my first seeing his beautiful grounds at Pemberley (Austen 1966:332). This serves as a confession that there is after all a certain appeal in the typically desired attributes of wealth and security. It seems society has managed to root this value into her despite her original opposition to it.
In answer to Elizabeth’s accusations against his character, Mr. Darcy writes a letter that provides a reasonable account of all his actions, thus forcing her to realize she had severely misjudged him.
Mr. Darcy — Proud and wealthy aristocrat
Mr. Darcy makes amends to Jane and Mr. Bingley by admitting to his friend the part he played in undermining their relationship:
“I made a confession to him, which I believe I ought to have made long ago. I told him of all that had occurred to make my former interference in his affairs absurd and impertinent . . . I told him, moreover, that I believed myself mistaken in supposing . . . that your sister was indifferent to him; and as I could easily perceive that his attachment to her was unabated, I felt no doubt of their happiness together.” (Austen 309)
Mr. Darcy assists in the saving of Lydia Bennet’s, and therefore the Bennet family’s, reputation by ensuring that Wickham marries the girl; and so forth.
Elizabeth, Mrs Fitzwilliam Darcy
And with a low bow he left her to attack Mr. Darcy, whose reception of his advances she eagerly watched, and whose astonishment at being so addressed was very evident. […] Mr. Collins, however, was not discouraged from speaking again, and Mr. Darcy's contempt seemed abundantly increasing with the length of his second speech, and at the end of it he only made him a slight bow, and moved another way. (18.57)
Elizabeth Bennet of Pride and Prejudice - 123helpme
Mr. Collins is right there next to him, but he's so self-absorbed that he can't see how much Darcy despises him. Not Lizzy, who can see exactly what's going on. She's right a lot of the time, like when she tells Jane that Miss Bingley "follows [Bingley] to town in hope of keeping him there, and tries to persuade you that he does not care about you" (21.19). And she's right again when she sees that Darcy "had no doubt of a favourable answer" during his first proposal (34.6).